Daily Meditation: January 19, 2014


Creating Space to Dance Together

When we feel lonely we keep looking for a person or persons who can take our loneliness away. Our lonely hearts cry out, “Please hold me, touch me, speak to me, pay attention to me.” But soon we discover that the person we expect to take our loneliness away cannot give us what we ask for. Often that person feels oppressed by our demands and runs away, leaving us in despair. As long as we approach another person from our loneliness, no mature human relationship can develop. Clinging to one another in loneliness is suffocating and eventually becomes destructive. For love to be possible we need the courage to create space between us and to trust that this space allows us to dance together.

Henri J. M. Nouwen

Text excerpts taken from Bread for the Journey, by Henri J.M. Nouwen , © 1997 HarperSanFrancisco. All Scripture from The Jerusalem Bible ©1966, 1967, and 1968 Darton, Longman & Todd and Doubleday & Co. Inc. Photo by V. Dobson.

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2 Responses to Daily Meditation: January 19, 2014

  1. Aden Kim says:

    What a deep thought about the failure of our relationship!
    The key of a mature relationship is to start from the love of the other, not the desire to satisfy our loneliness.

  2. Pauline Hampshire says:

    People who need love only know how to take love and not how to give it. That’s very sad for them because genuine love, given freely, flows back in abundance.

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