Reading: The Path of Power (p 21-49).
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Thanks to each of you for joining the vibrant group of seekers forming this spirit-filled community. We had a wonderful first week of warm introductions and sharing. It is a great joy to reconnect with previous participants and to welcome many others joining us for the first time. Thanks to each of you for your contributions—whether you actively post comments or follow our discussion silently. We are all blessed simply by your presence.
Henri’s essay The Path of Power is thought provoking and, perhaps, transformational. Please feel free to share whatever came up for you through your reflection on the readings. You may also choose to respond to some of the questions below:
1. In describing power that oppresses and destroys Henri writes, “God knows the agony and anguish we have brought upon ourselves by wanting to take our destiny in our own hands and lord it over others.” (p 25) Taking it a step further he says, “The most insidious, divisive, and wounding power is used in the service of God.” (p 28)
a) Cite one or more events in in history, in our world today, or in your own life where someone has used power to “lord it over others”? What did you learn from the event that can guide us on our spiritual journey home?
b) What is your reaction to Henri’s criticism of “the devastating influence of power in the hands of God’s people”?
2. Henri writes that our loving God confronted the evil in the world and showed us his divine mercy through powerlessness. “In Jesus of Nazareth, the powerless God appeared among us to unmask the illusion of power, to disarm the prince of darkness who rules the world, and to bring the divided human race to a new unity.” (p 31)
a) How does Jesus bring us to rest in the intimacy of God? Can you share your experience of God’s intimacy?
b) How does Jesus’ life of beatitude bring “the divided human race to a new unity”? What does this mean in your life today?
3. In describing the power of God’s love, Henri writes, “A theology of weakness challenges us to look at weakness… as a total and unconditional dependence on God that opens us to be true channels of the divine power that heals the wounds of humanity and renews the face of the earth.” (p 40)
a) How do you respond to Henri’s challenge to look at weakness as dependence on God that renews the face of the earth?
b) How do you live as a witness to a powerless God and help to build the kingdom of love and peace?
I’m looking forward hearing from many of you and to a rich and rewarding discussion. New joiners are always welcome, and, of course, feel free to share whatever comes up for you in the readings or to follow along silently.
Peace and all good.
Ray
In reading this first section on power and theology of weakness, I am struck by how this very truth has been playing out in the circles of my local church. This book has just given more insight and specifics to the generalities of where we feel the heart of our congregation is going. I have never before seen a pastor become so openly broken in the presence of his parishioners and cry out for us to follow him into this place of broken submission to the heart, will, love of our Father. When I read about the powerlessness of God unmasking the games of the church, my heart swelled. This is our prayer. We take our masks off, show each other our weaknesses, and love one another with Godly love. We have a long way to go, but reading this book so far has been a huge confirmation of the journey we are on.
Friends and fellow seekers,
Thanks to each of you for another week of thoughtful and deep sharing. It is a joy to be a member of this community. I’m already looking forward to our reading and discussion next week, but there is still ample opportunity to comment or respond to others this week as well.
The first question asks for examples of where power has been used to “lord it over others.” Just yesterday in Bolivia, Pope Francis asked for forgiveness for the Church acting with power during the colonization of the Americas: “Here I wish to bring up an important issue. Some may rightly say, “When the Pope speaks of colonialism, he overlooks certain actions of the Church”. I say this to you with regret: many grave sins were committed against the native peoples of America in the name of God. My predecessors acknowledged this, CELAM (note: Bishops in Latin America) has said it, and I too wish to say it. Like Saint John Paul II, I ask that the Church “kneel before God and implore forgiveness for the past and present sins of her sons and daughters”. I would also say, and here I wish to be quite clear, as was Saint John Paul II: I humbly ask forgiveness, not only for the offenses of the Church herself, but also for crimes committed against the native peoples during the so-called conquest of America.” Pope Francis then added, “And with this request for forgiveness, and to be just, I also would like us to recognize the priests and bishops who strongly opposed the logic of the sword with the strength of the cross. There was sin. There was sin, and in abundance, and for this we ask forgiveness. But there as well where there was sin, where there was abundant sin, grace abounded, through these men who defended the justice of the native peoples.” This is a beautiful and necessary recognition of the sin of using “power in the service of God.”
The Atlantic slave trade is horrific example of power that oppresses and destroys. Read the brief article and then spend two minutes watching this animated map. You can also pause it to gain additional details. http://www.slate.com/articles/life/the_history_of_american_slavery/2015/06/animated_interactive_of_the_history_of_the_atlantic_slave_trade.html?wpsrc=sh_all_dt_tw_top While chattel slavery may be in the past, the power in today’s world results in poverty and injustice on a vast scale.
As I reflected on the “theology of weakness” that Henri describes, I was drawn to the words of Jesus: “You know that those who are supposed to rule over the Gentiles lord it over them, and their great men exercise authority over them. But it shall not be among you; but whoever would be great among you must be your servant, and whoever would be first among you must be the slave of all. For the Son of man also came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” (Mk 10:42-45, RSV-CE) This Scripture passage substantiates Henri”s words: “Power is claimed, and power is given. In and through the powerless Jesus, God wants to empower us…to build the kingdom of God. (p. 42) Each of us is God’s beloved and we are called to follow Jesus and to do the will of the Father by serving the least brothers of mine. It’s that simple; and that difficult.
May the Lord give you peace.
Ray, as usual your insight adds to the message making it much fuller. A tour guide in Hawaii told me one day “The missionaries ask us to bow our heads. When we lifted them, all our land was gone.”
This is a wonderful experience we share. Our concentration has been on the middle power. How do we move from the Theology of Weakness to assume the third power Henri discussed?
Pope Francis is becoming a very powerful world leader asking forgiveness and having compassion.
Jesus became powerful through his miracles.
In our worlds, how do we do this?
Jerry,
As I read it, it is the entry of Jesus into the world as the powerless God to show us how to find our way home directly leads to the power we are each called to exercise–the power of God’s love.
As Henri points out, we exercise the power of God’s love through our weakness, through our service to the “…poor who do not have such (earthly) power…” And I believe that we are all “poor” in one way or another–materially, spiritually, in loneliness, in sickness, in infirmity, aging, etc. Hence Jesus’ new commandment, “…love one another; even as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.” John 13:34-35)
Being called God’s beloved – God then calls us to walk with Him, whether we walk in the desert or walk through the land of plenty. God sustains us when we are in need and when we are dry we thirst and He comes with living water. As Christians we need to be there for others to help and give of ourselves; but by the same token we must reach out and help those that are parched with thirst. God’s grace is sufficient for all – for in the desert we will find water if we rely on the Lord to see us through the tough times. When we see others go through difficult times we reach out to them and help with what they need. I will always remember that no matter what the situation is “His grace is sufficient” ….. I thank God for His grace and love. Then there is dear Henri who went to help the helpless he showed God’s grace by his actions. May I and all of us become grace bearers for our Lord.
Thank you for your insights about how God sustains us… and reminding us that we must share that sustenance.
Ray, that interactive map was fascinating, informative and horrifying. I never knew the slave trade was that huge or long lasting. I’m going go forward that link to our JustFaith group. The modern equivalent is the sex slavery trade, alive and well along our Interstates all over our country as well as the other developed nations. How can we allow our brothers and sisters to be exploited like this? No wonder God weeps.
The many insightful messages here along with the readings from our book study find me searching deep within myself. This week’s reading was very close to my heart as I am easily intimidated by powerful people. More than anything, I would like to belong to a church, but my church experiences thus far have left me still searching. In Henri Nouwen’s interpretation of following Jesus, I see such a new, refreshing, and spirit filled message. At first the concept of being “beloved” was very foreign to me. Nevertheless, I kept reading and praying and listening. I can’t explain it, but life seems different now: deeper and more meaningful.
Lori Jo: I just read your post and your “church experiences” comment and “seeking a church” resonated with me. I said a prayer for you that you may find what you seek. The parishes /churches I have belonged to have been far from perfect, we are all sinners and churches are hospitals for souls. In the Bible it helps me to remember these words: “guard your heart”. “gird your loins”. “put on the armor of God”. I arrive at Mass early, pray in my car that I can set a boundary that I may not be wounded by those who want to “Lord it over me”.
Thank you for your kind and encouraging thoughts. I appreciate being remembered in prayer. Today was quite an experience. My lawn mower had been sparking and smoking last night so today I had to go to the store to buy a new one. On my way to my car in the driveway, I noticed my car license plates had been stolen. After talking to the police, it was a hot walk to the MVO to purchase new ones. But knowing someone cared enough to take the time to share with me on my post took the edge off the issues at hand. Even while walking and eventually getting the bus, I thought a lot about how you pray before entering church. I though about the people’s voices on this book study. I was grateful for every bird I heard, and all the people I saw and thankful that I had the independence to be able to correct the impact of the theft of the license plates. And lastly, with new plates on the car, I did buy a lawnmower and finish the lawn before the predicted rain. But the difference today is that I was able just to “be in the moment” while attending to the tasks. More “being” than doing. Thank you so much! Kind regards to your family.
Lori Jo! Wow! 🙂 I have had my own lawn mower troubles as well this spring and summer! But, getting your license plates stolen on top of that, geeze, that would have sent me into a tizzy. For weeks I’ve struggled with a new lawnmower that just won’t start and it was in the shop for five weeks. It is amazing how a lawnmower can be such a source of stress at this time of year! Where I live, there are many properties that have overgrown lawns and they are fined by the city. Many elderly people or unoccupied homes just cannot keep up with the daily rains we are having and fast growth of the weeds and lawn.
Taking the bus to get new license plates? There ya go! I had a very similar experience. I had to take my car to the garage for a half day on a Saturday. So, I walked home and took the bus too. Well, I made a few wrong transfers on the buses because I am not familiar with the bus lines and road the buses around a lot that day trying to get back home and then returning to the garage later in the day. The people I met on those buses are so completely different from people I normally see it was an eye opener but I thoroughly enjoyed it.
This is largely what I have learned from Fr Nouwen that he could go from Harvard to L’arche in Canada with such different people and selflessly love them all.
This was not something I could do like Fr. Nouwen describes so I prayed for help which allowed me to easily tolerate those bus rides and enjoy many of the people I sat with and the drivers and passengers that I talked with! What a surprise. Normally, I would beat myself up for stupidly making the wrong transfers, stew in my own juices for wasting the day riding the buses etc. etc. but its a lot easier now to take these circumstances in stride and unexpected happenings when we have our spirituality and the Holy Spirit to help us keep centered. 🙂 Also, you found joy too along the way with the birds! so good!
Hi Lori Jo,
You are not alone in your search for a spiritual home that is safe. I too have struggled over the years. Recently, after feeling like maybe I had found a place where worship and fellowship were simple and genuine, I have been once again shown that some people are more interested in lording it over others than loving others as Christ loves us. I am working on forgiving but I cannot forget and leave myself and my family vulnerable to further injury. This hurt was targeted at my 9 yo daughter, who fortunately I was able to protect but made the injury all the more difficult to forgive. Especially when forgiveness was not asked for.
We, sadly, will eventually move to a new church as I now that humans are sinners including me, and despite this God had called us to fellowship. I will continue to search for a home that seeks the path of peace and guards against the path of power. Your experience of encouragement from a simple reply to your post is an illustration of how God comes into our lives through others. I just wanted to share that you are far from alone in your experience with churches.
The phrase that has echoed since I first read the chapter on power at the beginning of the week was “the theology of weakness” but God has placed me in several situations this week and given me the opportunity to listen to his whispered voice in Henri’s writing “from his distance” so to speak through God’s eyes working in open hearts.
At a local pool I witnessed a woman swimming with an older woman who has pain in several joints through arthritis. She was encouraging the older lady by chatting as they swam. Afterwards when her friend had gone it became apparent that the younger woman had a condition of the spine herself that will need a painful injection on Friday.
Secondly a friend shared photos of a hand sewn book embroidered with the words “First aid for the heart “,on the first page a zippered pocket labelled place your troubles in here and on another you are worth fighting for” I affirmed her for the beauty of her thoughtfulness and handicraft .It served as reminder from one friend to another of that persons value. The embroiderer replied to me “The friend I made it for has a sad, yet fabulous story. She suffered from self harm by burning and two hospitalizations for near death from self injury. Two years ago someone suggested a rescue dog. She adopted Jack S. He was anti social and aggressive. With love she totally turned his life around and now he is SAVING her life. I have a hard time relaying this without tears. He is a Border Terrier with the most soulful and loving eyes. ” She went on “Thank you Gilly for your encouragement it is very primitive but each stitch was done with special wishes. I guess I don’t know how to pray, but instead do mindful stitching”
Then finally at a small ecumenical meeting today a brave colleague going through a painful marital separation shared some of her anguish with us. Three of us came alongside all listening as we had all ourselves been through marital breakdown. We uplifted each other in prayer and listening .
“A theology of weakness challenges us to look at weakness… as a total and unconditional dependence on God that opens us to be true channels of the divine power that heals the wounds of humanity and renews the face of the earth.” (p 40)
All these scenarios provided evidence of the theology of weakness and the power of God’s love through Christ within us. God in his weakness sent his son ,who in turn shared his Father’s love in dying for us on the cross restoring us as God’s chosen and beloved into the presence of his love. Here in the human situations were all the mysteries of weakness ,the courage that conquers fear, trusting unconditional relationships, humility and prayer. Thank you Father for Henri for his wise words as they hold us closer to the presence of your love.
Gilly B
Have a weekend full of hope in that love everyone.
Gilly, your stories really inspired me. Thanks so much for sharing them.
The article on Pope Francis embracing the Charismatic Movement in South America is very current and pertinent to our discussion. Neuman wrote in the NYTimes on-line this morning that the Pope is urging churches to open their doors and even start training leaders. Here is a link to the article. http://nyti.ms/1fqHux9
What a refreshing development!
Wow! ~ Come Holy Spirit, fill our ~hearts and minds and bodies!
Thanks for sharing Jerry~ Kathy
Thank you for this link–I sent it to my sister too. We both were active in the movement in this country decades ago. Refreshing to see it is growing strong again. Thanks again and many blessings to all “Sharers” here.
For some odd reason I’m still waiting my copy of the book!! I live in Florida and first read “Wounded Healer” many,many years ago. I saw a copy in the lounge for Pastoral Care Ministers in an Ohio hospital. I assumed it was there for others to read so that’s what I did. At that time I was doing clinical pastoral care and found it intriguing. Since then I am still finding books here and there to buy written by Henri, so it was wonderful when I found the daily readings some years ago. Now I’ve discovered this way to share online. That has been comforting since I’ve retired and am now busy doing things apart from ministry, like watching our granddaughter, burying my mom etc. Aside from daily mass I am on a spiritual island so to speak. So this is indeed very nourishing for me. Thanks to all to who share!
I had foot surgery a week ago and am laid up, so I haven’t posted before now since it’s painful to sit at the computer. I have, however, read this chapter several times and reflected on it so that when I did sit down to type something, it was worthwhile. I think what discourages me the most, and often, is to see someone in the parish get involved and seeing the little bit of power go to their heads so that they begin controlling things and pushing people in the group , forcing them to do something their way. I’ve seen is in groups such as parish council as well as in people who teach classes in Scripture or something religious topic where they know a little and most participants know nothing. Those same people have attended class I’ve been teaching and, in the discussion time, tried to monopolize the group with their superior knowledge so that no one dares to ask a question or make a comment and I spend a lot of energy shutting up the power people so that the gentler souls get something out of the discussion and want to come back for another class sometime. That experience has taught me, now that I no longer am DRE and participate in different offerings, but be sure I don’t jump in and monopolize – a real temptation since people still see me as somewhat of an expert. We’re doing a Little Rock Scripture study now, facilitated by a person who is new to teaching adult ed. She has taught confirmation prep but felt called to offer a Scripture study and I said I’d participate to support her since she didn’t know if she could do adults. I find myself having to bite my tongue, just be a participant and give Mary a chance to spread her wings. The last 8 months of facilitating a JustFaith group consisting of people with varied understanding of the Church’s social justice teachings and experience with the poor has really made me aware of how powerful our biases and prejudices are, how quickly people go into defense mode and how frightening it can be to be asked to let go of privilege and power. Reflecting on that, and reading several of Henri’s book on peacemaking as he explored whether he was called to serve the poor in Central American, and then decided he was instead called to L’Arche, seeing how he confronted the idea of power – ending in the book we’re studying – has really made me think about how much I need to control things and how often I have used my power in a way that benefited me and made me feel more secure at the cost of someone weaker or less educated or less experienced or whatever. I think Henri is right on in this chapter. And I also grieve at how much damage our power plays cause when they are at all connected to a faith community, or even worse, go out from the faith community to hurt or control groups of people.
Forty years ago, when I was new in ministry, we had an incredibly wise pastor who nurtured his staff and nearly-full-time volunteers with faith discussions every day after Mass. One day one of us made a comment about a staff member who was very much an extrovert and got a lot of attention from parishioners, that he always acted like God liked him best and we felt we never would get to that stage of relationship with God. Father stopped us right there and said, no way. He told us what Henri talks about, that comparing ourselves with others was diabolic. “Diabolic?” we asked, stunned. Yes, he said, because if we compared ourselves to a person and thought we were further along on the spiritual journey, we’d fall into the sin of pride; if we thought we were way behind, feeling we’d never catch up could lead us to give up and despair. He told us solemnly – and none of us ever forgot, as we occasionally remind ourselves of what he said that day – that either way the devil won. He said never to compare ourselves with anyone else because no one could know the trials and temptations anyone else faced and thus could never have a true idea of anyone’s relationship with God, and to wonder about it would distract our gaze from God and break our concentration on following him and listening to what he wanted in our lives at that moment. Reading Henri’s statement brought that day back strongly and reminded me that, most of the time, it helps me catch myself, give the other person some slack, and get my attention back on how well I was listening to God in my own life at that very moment. Thanks, Henri, for reminding me!
I spent quite some time on reflecting Henri’s statement that people with power do not invite intimacy since they inspire fear. How simple a statement, but how very powerful in itself in illuminating more clearly the magnificence of the Incarnation and the way Jesus showed us how to live in the Beatitudes. WOW!! I also really liked what Henri said about not getting “stuck” in weakness as if it were in itself something worthwhile, but to use it purify ourselves so that the power of God shows in us and flows out from us to lift up all who are burdened and held down. I am brought back to a reflection that the only way I can grow closer and closer to God is to learn how to quit judging (good/bad, “in”/out” group, success/failure) and focus on looking in every situation and in every person for the evidence of God working to bring life there, life to the full. What a challenge!
Very insightful. Thanks. I chuckled a bit about guiding discussions and when the “power, smarter person” sucked in air I’d jump in to ask another participant to speak! Common problem, I suspect. Like your pastor said, we can’t judge the “power, smarter person” because–well, look at Henri and all he was able to do for others even though he craved attention! Only God knows for sure. Thanks again for sharing these thoughtful words.
Yes, doesn’t it happen all the time – all those power plays we fall into, seems like over and over and over? I liked your linking that to Henri’s need for attention. Too bad all of us don’t struggle to “name our demons” and control them like Henri did. I think that’s why I like his writings so much – knowing that most of his books came from notes he made as he struggled, notes he wrote to call him to change and grow in his relationship with God. He helps me put my failings and yearnings into perspective and take courage that, if I never give up, with God’s help I’ll grow beyond them and become the nurturing, compassionate person God knows I can be. Not growing through those power needs can lead to such devastatingly harmful actions inter-personally and on a larger scale. Thinking of the Crusades and the Inquisition and the Holocaust as results of power gone terribly wrong makes my blood run cold. Will we humans never learn?
Thanks Cel, for your sharing. Many of the points you make reflect my own experience. That is one of the blessings of this blog, we find hearts struggling as we are, and know we are not alone.
That was so much a part of Henri’s legacy; with all his wisdom , knowledge and experience, he knew how important it was to acknowledge his brokenness. One does not negate the other, so often I have let my brokenness cancel out my gifts.
Blessings to all.
I agree, these blogs sure hone my own personal reflections. It’s good to know others struggle with the things I struggle with and sometimes point out places I haven’t noticed I’m failing, giving me a nudge to keep growing. These studies remind me I need “constant vigilance,” because most of the messages that surround and “pollute” me are about entitlement and getting what I want, no matter at what cost to whom. These studies have especially helped me to become comfortable admitting my brokenness. Our culture overwhelmingly pushes us to maintain that we have it all together, so it’s a relief to be in the company of others who admit “I’m not where I want to be yet” and to say, “I want to be better.”
Thanks Cel. I’m repeating your words here because I know this is an area where I struggle. And may you have a rapid and successful recovery from surgery.
Diabolic (Divisive) Comparisons
A wise priest told a group of parishioners that comparing ourselves with others is diabolic because no matter how the comparison turns out the devil wins. “He said never to compare ourselves with anyone else because no one could know the trials and temptations anyone else faced and thus could never have a true idea of anyone’s relationship with God, and to wonder about it would distract our gaze from God and break our concentration on following him and listening to what he wanted in our lives at that moment.”
Thanks Cel for sharing this wisdom.
Amen!
Thanks, Ray. It’s amazing how these studies bring things we knew, but haven’t thought of lately, back to the surface, so to speak. Your comments gave it another push upwards. Hopefully after this second time of reflecting on this bit of wisdom, I’ll live it better! Thanks, too, for the well wishes on recovery. I’m really glad I signed up for this summer study. Usually I’m so very busy outside during the summer that I get behind on writing down reflections even when i do serious reading. This study has helped me not go absolutely stir crazy. Having to stay off my feet about 23 hours a day, and the time on my feet being in small increments, is really hard for me, and this powerful study has helped. I’m a little frustrated that for some reason I can’t post comments on my smart phone, which I use to check e-mail and read everyone’s posts each day, but instead have to come to the computer to interact. Maybe I’ll get the smart phone figured out before the study ends!
My experience has been that the more I try to cling to power, the more it withers up and dies in my hands. On the other hand, when I become powerless myself and simply allow God’s power/grace to flow through me, it has a kind of multiplier effect.
For instance, part of my job as a lawyer is to advise my clients about the potential risks and benefits of different courses of action. It may be obvious to me what the smartest course of action is, and I want my clients to respect me and take my advice. But the more I try to force my ideas on them and “lord it over” them that I have all this knowledge and experience, oftentimes the more they resist. I find I have much more peace and joy when I simply lay out their options, discuss the risks and benefits, tell them what I think is best and why, but then reassure them that the decision is theirs to make. That sharing of power makes for a much better, healthier working relationship.
The same is just as true for friendships and love and family relationships.
The only true power is God’s power, and God means for that power to flow, and build energy by sharing it. If we try to accumulate it within ourselves, it stagnates and spoils.
I really understand where u r coming from and I agree with your wise counsel.
God’s plans and His power brings blessing when we seek and sometimes have to wait for His powerful way.
“sharing of power makes for a much better, healthier working relationship.
The same is just as true for friendships and love and family relationships.
The only true power is God’s power, and God means for that power to flow, and build energy by sharing it. If we try to accumulate it within ourselves, it stagnates and spoils.” So very well said, Cathy, thank you. ~ Kathy
Dependence on God is what we need. So many times, my dependence on Him comes from my lack of power, for His strength is perfect when mine is not. When I think I can live on my own power – my own will – and forget to invite Jesus in to help me get through the day-to-day struggles, that is usually when I come crashing down in brokenness.
Brokenness leads to repentance, repentance leads to forgiveness, forgiveness produces freedom from guilt and the bondage of sin. Freedom produces a new capacity of love for others, to love the unlovable, and to love God. This whole process is a shifting of focus off of self and turning it back toward God and those to whom God calls us to love.
Why is our capacity so limited? Perhaps we are not living in brokenness or powerlessness. When I recognize God at work, once I have surrendered, then I can be in rest in the intimacy of God. God uses people in their brokenness. The fruit of brokenness is the release of God’s spirit in healing.
Very well said!
Thank you all for your sharings. I am at a low point right now, feeling disconnected from my heart-home in Jesus. But just reading and listening to your hearts is helping me to stay connected and reminds me that Abba is forever looking forward to His Prodigal sons and daughters returning home.
Baby steps, humbly asking for your prayers.
Joni,
Know that you are never alone. We as a community are with each other. And not only is Abba looking forward to his sons and daughters return, he sent his Son and the Holy Spirit to be with us always on the journey. You are in my prayers this evening.
Ray
Beautifully said, Ray. Your words capture the reason why I so love participating in the Henri Nouwen discussions with the thoughtful, honest, and open people who are drawn to this website.
Dear Joni as a fellow seeker, I send you love and prayers during this dry time. I stumble so often and know that staying faithful is the only way to wait out the lonely times. We were meant to find the support offered on sites like this and I am grateful for the Spirit connecting us. I wish you Peace. Kathy
Hello Joni,
You’re on my prayer wall, I read it every day to lift everyone named there to the Lord.
Jennifer
Thank you Kathy-Part of the problem is to find the beloved community. Nouwen tried Harvard, Yale , Nortradame L’arche and wound up finding that none of these could provide what he sought a “Home”. He ended up suggesting it must be our first love which for him is God the one who whispers to our hearts that we r beloved. I’m aware of the home we all have in the inner presence of God. After retiring from 40 yrs. in the Methodist church as a pastor one of the places I am finding a renewal of the sense of home is the Eucharist in a church where I am not a for formal member and I don’t know any of the people.
I was touched by the phrase, “God wants to come close, very close, so close that we can rest in the intimacy of God as children of God in their mother’s arms”(p. 34). Jesus came to us in the “powerless” form of a baby, depending on others for his nurture and care. At times he calls us to be dependent like babies, resting in the intimacy of God as children in their mother’s arms. I was blessed last week to be on retreat in a beautiful part of Wales. I was thoroughly “molly-coddled”, (physically and spiritually), for 6 whole days. One of the images I received in prayer was that of a baby resting in her mother’s arms. I saw that as me resting in the loving and tender arms of God. I felt that God was calling me to allow myself to be loved. To enjoy being in his peace, stillness and loving care. To just delight in BEING. To BE – LOVED. I am further amazed at how he continues to come to us in the simple, humble and vulnerable form of a small piece of bread. How beautiful and trusting (on his part) to allow himself to be held gently and tenderly in our hands at that most intimate moment of the Mass – Holy Communion.
Beautiful and apt images, Nuala. And while babies do represent trust, innocence, vulnerability, and dependency on the love and care of others, they also relish every new experience as they explore the world with a sense of wonder. Every day is an opportunity to learn and grow. As I begin what I expect to be a very challenging day, I will try to keep your reassuring image in mind. Thank you.
thank you both~
Hi, I’m Andrew from Canada, 35yo husband/dad, back home for a month, have been serving in Zambia for 2 years with a church-based mission. Found this book group through the society’s Lenten etc. emails. I thought this book might complement this break as I attend a family wedding and take a breather from cross cultural immersion. ‘finding my way home’…Home is not Necessarily a place such as Canada or Zambia but a place of being with God.
I hadn’t thought much about the power I inherently wield before going overseas. During orientation we attended a workshop about Power & Priviledge and I was shocked that I, who grew up with some sort of ‘weakling’ theology as I daily studied the Bible, possessed so much wealth and power as a white western male. This was very helpful to be conscious of as I lived and worked in a relatively poor country, because it is so easy to abuse and take for granted. Recently my organization held a discussion about the effects of colonialism (African context and otherwise) and the diabolical, divisive effects of power again shone through. Reading this chapter this week has helped me notice ways I am “tempted constantly to grab the little bit of power that the world around us offers, left and right, here and there, now and then” (43). Help me Jesus to leave this power at your feet so I can Know You, and you can really start to work!
“. Help me Jesus to leave this power at your feet so I can Know You, and you can really start to work!” Great prayer for me~Thank you, Andrew your insights are a blessing! Kathy
Thanks you, Andrew.
From Sallie
I am Sallie and live in Singapore and am originally from the UK. I have not joined a study before. I am active in pastoral care I have an intellectually disabled 23year old. Henri Nouwen has truly touched my heart and warmed my soul. He has encouraged me over the years through the Wounded Healer (the reading today) and the Dance for Life! Ministers and Priests have the same wounds and difficulties as us lay people. During difficult moments God shows us glimpses of hope and joy as happened to Nouwen with L’Arche and certainly has in my life with my daughter. Sometimes in the difficult times we grow the most. Nouwen is a tremendous healer for us all as he touches us where we are most vulnerable and walks along side us. I really look forward to taking part in this .. sorry I am a bit late!
A word on the wounding power used in the service of God and on the true power of the gospel message:
My family is finding hope in Pope Francis’ attention to the potential of the righteous power of the powerless. Juan Grabois, an Argentine human rights activist and organizer, finds such hope in the Pope’s plan to attend a summit of “grassroots groups from around the world: ragpickers from the slums of India, workers from South American cooperatives, even indigent can-and-bottle collectors from New York.” Others take hope in the upcoming assembly of bishops where Francis plans to “consider concrete solutions to the many difficult and significant challenges facing families in our time.” He asks the hierarchy to consider the plight of the woman who sees no alternative but divorce for herself and her children. He asks the bishops—and the laity—to abandon harsh judgment of the young man who struggles to reconcile his own sexuality and spirituality with the dogma of the church in which he was raised.
The Pope is asking us to walk in the shoes of the powerless— to walk with them in solidarity and support. Perhaps this is what Henri Nouwen means by a life of beatitude, a life lived in union with the powerful/powerless Jesus. I love Jerry’s question:”How much ‘freedom’ can we exercise in our own organized churches and still be a part of them?” These days, I hope that I am getting a little more clarity on the answer to that question.
Hi Elaine Thanks. This has perplexed me for years. I have decided to share the beginnings.
As a member, active, and raised in a fundamental church that “spoke where the Bible spoke”, and “was silent where the Bible was silent” I led a very pure life. When you are right and everyone is wrong, it is easy!
In my 20’s after an attempt to attend “Christian” College and become a preacher, I was very active in a Church in Dearborn, Michigan. I was starting to wrestle with my beliefs.
Each congregation was independent and had Elders. I received an invitation to lunch from a very close friend, the main Elder. He invited me to an executive dining room of an Auto company.
After a pleasant lunch and discussion, he looked at me and said he had heard some disturbing news. He had heard I was taking dancing lessons. He indicated he was very concerned about it.
I told him dancing lessons were the least of my problems. In fact, I was starting to question my whole faith. He said I knew better than that. It was the dancing lessons he was concerned about!!!
This was the start of leaving. The word itself was used to create power and those who used it. It left no room for question or understanding.
My life took a different direction after that lunch.
I have found so many times, even with Pope Francis and other leaders who start to change the order, they get so far and then revert back to basic teachings. One close Minister friend said he had explained all he could. Now I just had to “Take the Leap of Faith”
That is why, Elaine your comments were welcome. Henri created a personal relationship with God. However, he did it in an organized environment.
Jesus had a simple message. Love God, Love Man. So direct and simple. Maybe we should have just stopped there.
Jerry,
Thanks for this open and honest sharing. With your indulgence I might somewhat edit something you wrote: “The word itself was (MIS)used to WIELD power and those who used it left no room for question or understanding.” Unfortunately this has happened time and again throughout history.I am a Catholic and I have been privileged to visit St. Peters in Rome several times. My favorite object in that magnificent basilica (largely built at a time when the Church was very “worldly”) is the Holy Spirit window above the main altar. And that window symbolizes for me the Holy Spirit’s commitment to the Body of Christ, the Church, that we are not alone and no matter how much we try to foul up our world (by misusing God’s word for power, by not loving each other), Jesus has already claimed the victory and at the end of the day He will prevail in love.
And if you haven’t read it, I would suggest that that you consider reading Nouwen’s Life of the Beloved–Spiritual Living in a Secular World . Henri presents and explores a very simple, profound and, ultimately, life-altering theme: Just like Jesus at his baptism, we are the beloved of God and we are worthwhile just because of that.
Ray
Hi Ray Good suggestions. I will get that book.
Great program
Jerry
Maybe we could do that book next.
Amen!
Yes!
From Donna Dansby
I have been reading Henri Nouwen morning mediatations since last March, they have blessed me and many in my family.
I feel a spiritual connection with these insights, as my life has done a 180 in the last 2 years. Everything I thought I knew was turned upside down. I have been seeking the way home, but know it will not be like what I thought I knew and understand. I have great hope that thru this study my way, God’s way, will be revealed to me.
Donna, your post gave me pause as it reminded me of where I was some years ago. I don’t know the circumstances of your 180 degree turn but mine involved the sudden death of my youngest son, then early retirement about 2 years later and a move of 1200 miles from my home state of about 40 years to live with my other son and his children.
As you expressed so well for me also, “everything I thought I knew was turned upside down.” Certainly I had lost any illusion that I had any power to control the all the events of my life. I was at that time in a very weakened state, but I have gradually been learning that God does indeed hold the power. I’ve also come to understand Henri Nouwen’s teaching that we are truly the beloved of God. His book and the study here on “Life of the Beloved” was a great help to me.
I am quite sure that God’s way is being revealed to all of us as we open ourselves to dependence on God’s power and love.
I am a spiritual director, I have a few directees that have cognitive challenges. Today I was with one of these men and I was feeling inadequate. I was struggling with feeling like I was not helping my client make progress in his spiritual life. It feels like we are in a rut. I started to berate myself, “I am not praying enough”, “I am not listening well” ….I am just not enough. I came home and finished reading this section on power, and laughed at my self and praised God for his method of working with our weaknesses. How easy to forget who the true Spiritual Director is. What a relief!
Back to the questions that were raised, when people use their power as a way to lord it over people I get angry. I feel like this affects me too deeply. Almost like while I don’t like them doing that, I am jealous of their power. At times I can then react in a way that makes me use my power against them. What a vicious circle that can get me in.
Thank you all for the comments you have shared. This is a good study.
The Story about John and Sandy intrigued me. It is so simple yet profound. I am actually going to use it this Sunday at church. Each summer we do one Sunday where we either read parables or stories and just open it up for discussion. I am always surprised at the depth and variety of the responses to the material. I find it interesting how interpretations can vary so much and yet so many of them address truths and ideas that, despite there difference and even despite not lining up with the authors original intent, are still so valuable. I am really interested to see how they respond to this story. Thanks for the many thoughtful responses found here.
Here is a start~
“I know my sticks and my guns! Sometimes it is a friend with more influence than I, sometimes it is money or a degree, sometimes it is a little talent that others don’t have, and sometimes it is a special knowledge, or a hidden memory, or even a cold stare… and I will grab it quickly and without hesitation when I need to stay in control.”
I am a 69 year old retired reading teacher, married for 48 years, mother of four, grandmother of eight and a seeker of Oness with my Great God of Mystery since I was about eighteen when I went off by myself for my first retreat. I have wandered away many times and chose to not be PRESENT. God has always called me back and I am so grateful BUT why can’t I get this right yet? Why do I hand so much of my crap over only to grab it back? Why do I let my ego control my actions and reactions still when I so want to be about what God wants me to be. I know what that is. Jesus taught us how to live. Jesus spelled it out clearly in the Beatitudes. I believe in the gifts of the Holy Spirit and the Fruits that I so desire will bloom in me. Yet I sink back into my uglies and feel like I NEVER really stay on track for long.
It is why I am so committed to my prayer routine and so grateful that I have a God who loves me just as I am ~ needy and vulnerable but sometimes a mean mess.
Henri Nouwen speaks to me in all my weaknesses and gives me hope. I am not the only one who is trying and failing and trying again. Thank you all for being on this journey with me. I pray for us all~ Blessings and Love, Kathy
Kathy,
Thank-you for your thoughts. They mirror my thoughts but I couldn’t get them into words.
I am already gaining much by reading the replies. Jeanette
Dear Kathy– One question you raise: “why can’t I get this right yet?” struck me as quite familiar. As retired teachers, we were in charge of “right answers” and that approach gets into our egos. I know how difficult it is to leave the “right answers” to God, but I also know daily prayer moves us in that direction. Keep praying. Blessings and peace, Elizabeth
Hi Kathy. I love your revealing story. It is the story we all share on our journey to God and service. Lord, when will I finally get out of my own way? Why am I so selfish and so weak? My knees are skinned from falling so many times. But the most blessed consolation in all our failings is that we share our humanity. We can truly know God’s mercy and forgiveness. We can love one another. I know Jesus has your arm and is helping on the path. Blessings dear soul.
In describing power that oppresses and destroys Henri writes, “God knows the agony and anguish we have brought upon ourselves by wanting to take our destiny in our own hands and lord it over others.” (p 25) Taking it a step further he says, “The most insidious, divisive, and wounding power is used in the service of God.” (p 28)
This segment of the book resonated with me and led to some introspection. Clearly, Jesus was no stranger to the wounding power used in the service of God. In Jeremiah 23:1-2 God even speaks of the shepherds who lose, scatter, and drive away the sheep of his pasture. Jesus is the prime example of what it truly means to be wounded, yet he forgave those who so gravely wounded him and so, we must also forgive.
It is a given that during the course of our lives we will be hurt by someone who is in power in the service of God. I think that this occurs because of the lens that we view the religious through and the expectations that we ourselves set for them. We assume that since they devote themselves to the service of God that they are a greater authority on scripture and religion and that they are a mouthpiece for God. We hold those who have this power to a higher standard. Unfortunately, we fail to realize that they are human and do have weaknesses and character flaws that sometimes hurt us, intentionally or unintentionally, and this drive us away from the church.
Fortunately, God does not let us walk away; he seeks us, finds us, and restores us to wholeness when we acknowledge our our need for him and rely on him to guide our steps. I believe that as part of the process of my own healing and restoration, he guided me to this virtual community, and I’m grateful to have the opportunity to be a part of this group.
What struck me about Nouwen’s writing on Power was the opening line “When God looks at our world, God must weep.” (p. 25) I often feel that weeping as I am bombarded with news from around the world and my own community. My comfort comes from Nouwen’s discussion of being with Adam, in which he emphasizes “presence.” (I was blessed to serve a L’Arche core member with a presence similar to what Nouwen describes in serving Adam.) I find that to move closer to accepting God’s power, the important thing for me is being PRESENT to God and others: to God in prayer and others in service. At my best, I will notice late in a day, how I have been present to God and to others. At my worst, I am not even present to myself late in the day. For me, connection to God’s power is about being conscious of what I am doing with my will. Blessings and peace to all, Elizabeth
I think that being connected to God’s will (as well as striving to be connected in a genuine way) is strengthened when we can give up power ; whether it is in the form of money, prestige, work etc. It is when we are truly able to accept our weaknesses and genuinely reach out to others that we are contributing to building “the kingdom of God” among us.
An added thought; it is when I live my daily life in prayer and in the present moment, that I feel an intimacy with God. It is a very peaceful place.
“I find that to move closer to accepting God’s power, the important thing for me is being PRESENT to God and others: to God in prayer and others in service. At my best, I will notice late in a day, how I have been present to God and to others. At my worst, I am not even present to myself late in the day. For me, connection to God’s power is about being conscious of what I am doing with my will.”
Wow Elizabeth~ your words could me my words. while reading our assignment, I felt rather overwhelmed and knew I needed time to let it perk before I shared. I decided in prayer time this morning that I would check in and see how others were feeling and what they were sharing. Yours was the first and I am so grateful. “Being present” Thank you! Kathy
Dear Kathy— Thank the Holy Spirit for bringing us together in this group and keep praying. Shalom, Elizabeth
Good morning fellow seekers. I found this first chapter a perfect picture of Pope Francis. Couldn’t help wondering if they knew each other. He is a perfect example of teaching a message somewhat different than the power structure of his Church.
Many of the Mystics seemed to be in the same position. In fundamental churches, the power was the interpretation of the literal words. When in more liberal churches, the social themes. How do we develop our “powerlessness” in organizations that use theological power to tell us something different?
Many examples of that right now, especially with recent changes in the law. During the discussions about the 4th of July, found it interesting that Jefferson wrote “we find these truths to be sacred”, and Franklin changed it to “self evident”.
How much “freedom” can we exercise in our own organized churches and still be a part of them?
Jerry, I am intrigued by your remarks. What do you mean, “How much freedom can we exercise in our own organized churches and still be a part of them?” Would you be “let go” if you approached your sermons with more of Nouwen’s ideas? I am truly nourished by the mystics like Nouwen, but also enjoy the literal translations of my own pastor who does not like the mystics. I feel sorry for him though, rejecting the mystics, and think he is missing out on a lot personally.
At Fuller seminary my son in law just finished a whole course studying the works of Nouwen. I wish more pastors would venture into more mystical perspectives.
Hi Kim
While I am not a minister, I guess I do preach. I think my concern is when we develop deeper spirituality, become more guided by the Holy Spirit and see things differently, but still have written liturgies and creeds that don’t reflect that change.
The article I referenced said the Charismatic Movement came in because people felt a lack of spirit in their worship. Spiritual healing, animated gatherings and happiness at the Eucharist brought a more spiritual feeling to them . Yet, they were at the fringes of the church until this latest open acceptance by the Pope.
My wife and I are members of a Catholic Charismatic covenant community so I have some familiarity with this topic and I would not have characterized it as the NYTimes did in today’s article. All the Popes since at least Saint John Paul II have given strong support to the Charismatic Renewal and have talked about the “current of grace” serving the New Evangelization. Pope Francis pointed to this rich history in his recent address to members of the Renewal at a convocation in the Vatican on July 3-4, just prior to his departure to Latin America. If you are interested, you can read those remarks here. http://www.zenit.org/en/articles/pope-s-address-to-charismatic-renewal
For me, and perhaps for Henri, the more important point might be that we are all God’s beloved and the Spirit acts in the lives of each of us in a way that is intended to touch our heart — if we are open to hearing and responding to the “still small voice” calling us to “find my way home.”
I appreciate your question Jerry because many of us have struggled with it. I have found that for me the church is the body of Christ, my brothers and sisters to whom I listen and share my faith. Each of us can find deep spiritual meaning in the sacraments, in the lives of the saints, and in the revelation of scripture.
Yet, my views are based on my own journey. I truly believe the Holy Spirit guides each of us on a unique journey home to God. I am very unhappy with the lack of vision among many in the church hierarchy. The church must evolve based on the teachings of Christ. In prayer and compassion may we become instuments for the healing of our churches and the unity of all God’s children.
Hi Bob
Thanks for thoughts. I was told a long time ago that if someone is standing between you and God, they were closer to God than you were.
Maybe it is an combination of self and others working together and apart.
A work in progress!
From SallyI am
I am slow getting started, but I plan on reading the chapter for this week so I know what others are finding in the reading. I knew Henri at Daybreak for three years (1990-1993).
I am awed by a God who chooses to be vulnerable and powerless and thereby giving us each a gift of freedom just to be. I am also awed by Henri Nouwen’s story of his relationship with Adam and how Henri was able to receive from Adam–a very mentally and physically challenged person– the gift of a peaceful relationship with God and with others in their community and how praising God for His goodness just naturally followed. One of the things which has been on my mind, in my struggling little congregation, is our ways of “teaching” religion especially to the children. My own daughter came through this experience and rather than the type of experience that was between Henri and Adam, came out feeling that there were all sorts of things that she needed to be about as a Christian and all sorts of ways that the adults could “measure her” and “evaluate her” and even “judge her” and I wasn’t very aware of all of this–she kept it pretty much inside of herself, I suppose from a feeling of guilt or shame or something–until she started making a life on her own and also decided not to go to church anymore. Then she told me she never really felt very good in church. It seems like Henri himself became vulnerable and powerless and open to seeing and receiving the gifts Adam had to contribute and, now that I am becoming aware that Christians can follow this path–he writes about it all so well–I hope that I will prayerfully and spiritually and trustingly become more vulnerable and powerless with others around me too. Though it is kind of complicated–still would never want to teach anyone, except maybe through example. Being like Adam is very inspirational.
Sharon, I found your comments interesting, and comments to which I can relate. I know a number of people that have left the church who were active as children, attended catechism, etc., but apparently did not receive what they needed to keep them there as adults. And then I know others who were wounded as adults and left, even though they did not want to do so. Henri Nouwen’s comments in this chapter really struck home when he said “[t]he most insidious, divisive, and wounding power is the power used in the service of God. The number of people who ‘have been wounded by religion’ overwhelms me.” (page 30 in my book, I have the hardcover, an older edition)
Hello to my fellow book study participants of Henri Nouwen’s “Finding My Way Home.” I hope you are all doing well and are safe on this holiday weekend.
Thank you, Ray, for posting some “starter” questions. I was intrigued by question number three, although I might spin off a bit from it, so I apologize in advance for that, as well as if I become a bit too long-winded for anyone out there. I have on occasion been accused of being a bit verbose!
In any event, some important things came together for me on this aspect of the first chapter. In all honesty, I have struggled over this notion of becoming powerful through weakness. For me, it didn’t add up. It finally came together as a result of our readings this week, and coincidentally, the readings this week at Mass addressed this and the priest who is covering this month for our pastor who is on vacation addressed it directly.
Prior to the quote by Henri Nouwen in question three, he specifically mentioned the Beatitudes. The second beatitude in the book is stated as “blessed are the gentle,” which we typically see as “blessed are the meek.” I read a small pamphlet a few years ago by a priest. It was entitled “Meekness is not weakness.” Henri Nouwen goes on to talk about a theology of weakness and the dangers associated with it, such as becoming passive and subservient, opening up to being oppressed by others, keeping the poor in their current condition, and romanticizing the plight of those who are sick or who suffer from mental and/or physical disabilities. And St. Paul is quoted by Henri Nouwen as saying “[m]y strength is made perfect in weakness.”
Well, I think I finally get the point. Ray quoted the following from the book: “A theology of weakness challenges us to look at weakness… as a total and unconditional dependence on God that opens us to be true channels of the divine power that heals the wounds of humanity and renews the face of the earth.” (p 40). For my purposes, a critical portion of the quote is found in the ellipses. I am going to change it up a bit and paraphrase. Here is goes: A theology of weakness is not a “worldly” weakness, but a total and unconditional dependence on God that opens us to be true channels of the divine power. (my paraphrase, not a direct quote).
The notion here for me is that as we become weak, our will is no longer present, and we can therefore be open to allow God’s will to be present in us and to work through us. It is no longer me in power, doing what “I” want and doing what “I” think should be done, but it is now me allowing God to work through me, and instead of doing my will, doing God’s will. I am diminished so as to allow God to increase. Suddenly, I no longer do my will, but His will. That is what Paul means when he says that his strength is made perfect in weakness. “Perfect” is the key word. It is perfection because God’s will is now being done. We can all find the same strength in weakness, and if all we did all day long as a result, 24-7, was God’s will, we would be perfect as well, and if we are doing God’s will always, how would we not be powerful? Of course, this entails us allowing ourselves to be weak, to let go of our power, to diminish, and to allow God to take its place, so that we are now acting agents of Him, and not acting on our own agendas.
That was a lot of words to basically say, “okay, I get it now!” Sorry this went on so long, but I am excited, as I had my epiphany for the weak! Now I just have to figure out how to “let go.” Probably easier said than done.
Have a great day everyone!
Charles
Charles, I haven’t received my hardcopy book yet and only have a sample of the forword and partial preface. Though I didn’t think I’d have a contribution without the book, I was struck by your reflections our weakness and God’s strength. Your idea of letting go of our power and allowing God to take its place made me think of Jesus’ teaching about losing ourselves to find ourselves. I looked up the passage about losing and finding self in Matthew 16: “24 Then Jesus said to his disciples, “Whoever wishes to come after me must deny himself, take up his cross, and follow me. 25 For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.”
It occurred to me that perhaps the cross Jesus speaks of is our human frailty.
By giving over our selves, losing our lives to Jesus, we find new life and strength in Him who took all our worldly weaknesses to His cross. We take our weakness with us to follow Jesus to new life.
~ well said Charles, thank you! ”
“and if all we did all day long as a result, 24-7, was God’s will, ” We would be living in God’s Kingdom in this NOW ~ mind blowing but what an amazing concept. “Thy will be done on earth as it is heaven…” Kathy
Thank you, Charles for sharing your insight. You helped me break through my confusion, and facilitated for me the ability to let go.
welcome Amy.:-) Glad you are here. Ray, I am not sure I can fully respond to the questions you posted just yet. I am still camped out on this chapter. I will tell you and everyone, though, this chapter hit me like a ton of bricks, like the proverbial two by four board up side the head! So much so, that I transcribed some of the chapter into my prayer journal:
God looks at us and weeps because wherever we use power to give us a sense of ourselves, we separate ourselves from God and each other and our lives become DIABOLIC , in the literal meaning of the word: DIVISIVE .
Jesus’s desire for us is to be unified, not divided.
That is why Andrew I am spending time reflecting on other people’s reflections~ the lines you just quoted spoke deeply to me too~
I can’t even put my take on this yet because it hit so hard and owning it kind of hurts and is definitely threatening. I know I need to own those words but I need to sit longer with this whole chapter. Thank you, Kathy
I’ve had a lot of experience with powerlessness in my life, unwanted divorce-loss of my (loss of custody)children, now grown, death of my sister at age 12, churches that were small and struggled- as a pastor of 40 yrs. journeying with others and trying to support them as they experience the sudden or gradual loss of “power”. I respect the pain of loss in my life and that of others. (Nouwen says our losses in a big part of our unique identity) Nouwen also says the organized church can be a source of pain and taking away once sense of uniqueness at least on occasion.I have experienced that in trying to be a part of churches that had closed communion or other limiting rules or regulations.( and also being accepted by compassionate members and pastors of those churches who accepted me and others even though we did not have the power to meet all their expectations) Reading Nouwen’s words and reflecting on his concepts is always an uplifting and empowering experience for me. I have suggested his books to struggling persons every where. For me two (of many) Nouwen concepts stand out in dealing with powerlessness. 1 that we all can be and really are”wounded healers” In dealing with powerlessness we need to admit our own losses to our selves. 2. His concept that all of us are chosen, blessed, broken and given. These four experiences common to us all (Life of the Beloved) enables us to find a connection to all others who are a part of the beloved community and are seeking authentic living which includes accepting who we are and our common powerlessness.
“enables us to find a connection to all others who are a part of the beloved community and are seeking authentic living which includes accepting who we are and our common powerlessness.”
Your words speak so clearly to why I am here and what I am seeking. Thank you, Kathy
I am one of the silent followers and have been so in the past 3 or 4 book readings I have participated in. I read “Finding My Way Home” as soon as it was delivered to my Kindle, found it powerful, stimulating and provocative. I re-read with all of you last week’s selection and even though several challenges crossed my heart, I became distracted, neglecting to post again. This morning after reading the daily email I was prompted to read last week’s posts & was reminded by your sharings how important you all are to me in this journey, just as Jesus is important to me. This parallels how I am with Jesus, so easily distracted. I so often reach for my brick which by itself is powerful, stimulating and provocative. This holy information of Henri’s words and inspiration is “my brick”. It’s so easy to stop there and not make the changes I need to make in my life to get closer to home. Am I the Prodigal who never comes home? Is my fear that what I say or do might not be good enough to impress, preventing me from entering into a closer relationship with those around me and with Jesus. I have been so gifted by God throughout my life. How can I be so ungrateful? And so, let me start again: I am a retired 74y/o medical professional living in NH and AZ who continues to work and be busy, probably so I don’t have to face the real question in my journey: How can I start looking at my life from above?
John, I understand your concerns, and your being easily distracted. I suffer from the same, and have the same or similar worries as you. I can’t remember who told me this (not a priest, I think a deacon, but I might have read it somewhere too), that in those times of distraction and those times when you feel further from God, that it is in those times that we strengthen our faith. In other words, when we are distracted, if we did not have that faith, we would not come back. So in a sense, those distractions you experience bring you closer to God. Just something to ponder. Things may not be quite as dire as they may seem!
John,
A belated response to your post and welcome to one of our many “silent” participants. Thank you for your insightful sharing.
Your concluding question is one for the ages and for each of us. “How can I start looking at my life from above (or as God sees it).” And a variation on that theme, “What is God’s will for me.” Fr. Walter Ciszek provides a simple, yet profound, answer in his book He Leadeth Me about Ciszek’s spiritual journey during more than two decades of captivity in the Soviet Union. He writes, “God’s will for us was the twenty-four hours of each day; the people, places, and circumstances he set before us in that time. Those were the things that God knew were important to him and to us at that moment, and those were the things upon which he wanted us to act… Each of us has no need to wonder about what God’s will must be for us; his will for us is clearly revealed in every situation of every day.”
Thank you Charles and Ray for your responses to my post. They remind me that I do have faith, that I do come back despite my distractions. Every day, it seems the Spirit gifts me with something to be grateful for. So lucky to be so loved.
Dependence on God works for me,although I couldn’t help but think of the old saying, “God helps those who help themselves”. I do find the idea of a powerless God a challenge.
Evelyn, after going through this material, and thinking through my comments posted elsewhere, I think that God is a powerless God as He acts not independent of us, but through us. In other words, he relies on us to allow him to work through us, and as such, is powerless without our cooperation. Of course that entails us becoming weak, subservient if you like, to His will, and no longer to our will. Just a thought I had after reading your comments.
Evelyn and Charles,
Your comments really hit a cord with me. When I think that God who created the universe I think of an awesome and powerful God. However, He willing gave dominion of the earth over to man who He created in His own image. We are God’s children and until we admit our powerlessness and invite God into our world He is powerless to act because God gave man free will. Therefor prayer becomes the most powerful tool we have in order to tap in to the true source of power which is the Creator of the Universe. Through our powerlessness we become powerful.
As I was preparing the post for this week I spent some time trying to summarize for myself Henri’s key themes in this essay. Here is what I came up with.
This week in The Path of Power Henri leads us to the paradox that “The movement from power through strength to power through powerlessness is our call.” (p 43). He teaches us, “In and through the powerless Jesus, God wants to empower us… to build the kingdom of God”. We do this by adopting a theology of weakness that enables “…men and women who claim for themselves the power of (God’s) love” (p 42) to act fearlessly to make all things new “on earth as it is in heaven” (Matt 6:10)
In leading us through three stages—Power (that oppresses and destroys), Powerlessness (of Jesus), and Power (of weakness, the power of God’s love)—Henri implores us to look at ourselves, at our humanity, and at all of creation with the eyes of God and, in doing so, to discern the way to live. He challenges us to turn away from “the lust for power that has entrapped and corrupted the human spirit” (p 25) and to “claim power, God’s power, the all transforming power of love.” (p 40).
It seems to me that how we live out these themes in our individual lives will differ based on our life circumstances. And it is by sharing our lives with others in caring and compassionate communities (both “real” in our daily lives and “virtual” like this one) that we learn what it means to follow the path of power and to support each other along the way.
Peace and all good.
Ray
Hello Ray,
Thank you for the summary you provided which is very helpful. The main idea that resonated with me was the idea that the weak are not powerless, in fact, the weak have “real power, power that comes from above” (page 43). I’ve never thought of power in terms of being comforted, experiencing mercy, and the ability to see God (also on page 43). When thinking of power through this lens, power can be used for good and is available to all and not just a select few.
Henri’s emphasis on “always moving toward the poor” also challenged me. I live a relatively privileged life and I feel challenged when reading articles of the refugee crisis in Syria (and in other parts of the world that do not get as much publicity). In my relative comfortable existence here in the developed world, how can I live with “total and unconditional dependence on God” that opens me to be a true channel of the divine power that heals?
Although I keep looking and listening for the suffering that is so prevalent in this world, I find it hard to find ways to reach out to and connect with those who are impoverished (in its many forms). Many of the church communities that I know of seem to be more focused on themselves and their survival (as an institution) rather than focusing on “the poor.” My dream is that one day that I will belong to a community that seeks to discover the divine power that Henri describes (uniting and healing power) in and through “the poor.”
Peace.
Paul
I’ve taken part in a number of these discussion groups – not always completing, but better for having taken part. As I come to the end of a difficult period in work the forward and preface felt like a comforting friend – especially for the summer, when I get the chance to stop a little and consider the truths of life as opposed to the stuff that seems so important at the time but not so huge when a bit of perspective is applied. This community gives me the space to get a better grip of who I am and I am eternally grateful to the people who lead and manage it as well as contributors. Looking forward to reading the Path of Power. I might even post before the end of the week some thoughts!! Prayers and thoughts for all in the week ahead. God bless – Phil
From Amy
I’m Amy from Savage, MD. I haven’t been part of your book discussions before and found out about it through the “Praying with Henri Nouwen” retreat where I met Ray. Hello Ray and everyone; I am happy to be here! I love Henri Nouwen’s works and admire who he was as a person. I find his transparency refreshing, as he allows you to accompany him on his own spiritual journey and all the depth and richness that entails. I am mom to an eight-year old daughter, by profession a reference archivist and attend St. Mary of the Mills Church. I look forward to our readings and discussions. God bless you all.